God disciplines those he loves. If we are without the discipline of our Father, the Scriptures say we are illegitimate children. Sometimes the love of God is painful. Don’t despise those times in your life where you are in difficult or painful situations. Remember that Jesus endured such great hostility from sinners and it was the joy set before him that allowed him to endure! Instead of trying to “flex” your way through the discipline, submit to God and trust the process.